Thursday, November 30, 2017

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

A disorder characterized by failure to recover after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event.
Every time I hear about PTSD, I associate it with war or major accidents. Today, sitting in my therapists office, we are discussing triggers and events in my life where I had the most traumatic feelings of failure. I recalled the entire time I was in high school and then when I was fired from working with the City of Kingsland back in 2012. I wanted to talk about my teen years, and therapist wanted to talk about being fired. 

So I briefly tell her what happened to me during my employment, and then how it quickly changed and then I was fired. I told her how when I went to talk to H.R. about what was going on with the women in my department, he gave me the day off and told me that we would all meet and discuss. When the day came to talk, me, H.R. and my 2 bosses, I had to listen to them tear me down as if I had been this awful employee the entire year and a half I was there. I attempted to speak up and defend myself, and the H.R. manager told me to "shut up" that this was not the time to speak. I was not only humiliated, but I was given "write-up's" that I had never seen dating back months before (without my signature on them). Needless to say, the whole situation was terrible and caused me to drink heavier than I had ever drank before. 30 Days later I was fired. 

I have never been fired. I was devastated, sad, depressed, angry, and felt guilt beyond what I should have felt. These woman bullied me, and then they spread awful rumors about me. 9 months later, I finally found a part-time job working for CVS. I found out about a month in that someone anonymously called my manager to tell them I was a whistle-blower and to watch out. I could not believe it. They stooped that low to call my new job? What had I done to deserve to not ever work again? 

I started to cry in my therapists office. All those feelings came back. Therapist said I had some post traumatic stress from this. I was surprised. I wasn't in war! I wasn't in any sort of traumatic accident where I almost died. It took me a long time to move past being fired the way I was. I cried over this for years after. I was tortured inside because I had blamed myself for failing at this job. I never ever wanted to not take responsibility for my actions. But those women never took responsibility for their actions. The way I was treated has left me with scars. 

I hope to learn how to accept myself, and accept that I am worthy of a good job. I am not a failure, although it is one of my fears which is the root of my anxiety. It was an emotional session today and I wanted to blog because I had to get it out of my head. 







Thursday, August 3, 2017

10 Things You Probably Don't Know About Me!

10 Things you probably don't know about me...

1. I do not eat fish. The reason being, someone told me when I was very young (probably 5 or 6) that if you eat fish and choke on a bone, you will die. Crazy right? 

2. I love carrots only when they are raw. I will not eat cooked carrots, YUCK!

3. I am addicted to hoarding school supplies, particularly pens. This is a picture of just 1 basket of pens I have and its a pretty deep basket.


4. I had a 31lb tumor removed from my left ovary in 2014. (Many know this, but I have made some new friends since then, ha ha!)

5. I am hyper-sensitive. I feel it all, all the time. I feel others, all the time. Its a curse, but it also allows me to tune into someone who has something to get off their chest. No matter what it is, people vent to me. I should have been a bartender. 

6. I collect Elephants. 

7. I love Tom Hanks. I think he is the funniest guy (behind Robin Williams of course)...I love all of his movies and if you asked me what my favorite movie of all time, it would be ANY Tom Hanks movie. 

8. I used to freestyle dance in my backyard when I was in elementary school. Us kids would dance to NKOTB, Paul Abdul, Debbie Gibson and Tiffany. When the street lights came on and we all had to go inside, I would take my radio to the back yard and dance some more. Yes, it was the 80's. The late 80's. But everything was about dancing!!

9. I buried something in a time capsule on the Air Force base in Belle Chase, LA when I lived there, I was probably around 10 years old. I have had several dreams about going there and digging it up. I have dream't that the Teen Center (where I hung out religiously) had expanded and they dug up the time capsule and put it on display. In my dream, I put a mixed tape in the time capsule. Today, I couldn't tell you what I put in there. 

10. When I was 14 & 15 I was a camp counselor for the Low Country Girl Scouts. I spent 2 summers at their camp in Monks Corner becoming "Duff" which was my camp nickname. 

Friday, July 28, 2017

Settling In...

Council Bluffs Iowa has been lovely to us. I find myself having more time to think, more time to waste and watch junk tv. Ha ha. 

We are all moved into our loft, and we love it. This place is so different from every other place we have ever been and I feel so lucky!! I feel I am definitely in the beginning of a new chapter of life. Not only is our new home also my new job, but this place is only for artists! Harvester Artist Lofts has a gallery, a garden, and four floors of amazing art from artists who have lived here or do live here currently. I envision my work hanging in the halls someday. 


Did I mention we are 5 miles away from Omaha?? Yes, Omaha, NE! We are 5 miles from Omaha and its a beautiful city. Council Bluffs is a beautiful town and it is located on the Missouri river which is the border of Nebraska. Our loft is located in downtown Council Bluffs, literally 1 block away from everything. 

Our loft is spacious and comfortable. We have beautiful windows with a 4th floor view! We have updated appliances, and a modern renovation in every unit. 



I had a dream when I was 30 that by the time I was 40 I would be doing what I wanted to be doing. I am 38. I look forward to my 40th birthday when I will have been here a while, settled in and perhaps having my own gallery show. I have worked hard to get here and my work is not done yet. I have changed my life and this is what I have to show for that. AMBITION! 

Ciao,
Jen

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

WE ARE MOVING!!

I figure I need to just use this blog more and this can help me update everyone who wants to know what we are up to!

So its happening, AGAIN! I have taken a job with a place called "Harvester Artist Lofts" in Council Bluffs, IA. Its this amazing redesigned building that offers a home to artists who have lower income levels. This place is beautiful and very unique. I love that I am in a larger area and literally minutes from Omaha, NE. Seems to have a lot of opportunity! 

This job will not only allow me more time for myself, but also nourish my artistic side! How amazing that there is an artist gallery on site for anyone to use. So much inspiration, and I will be surrounded by like-minded people. This journey will just lead me to the next...and so on with our ultimate goal, COLORADO!!! We arent far now! I do feel that I will stay put in Council Bluffs for a while if I can so I can absorb this place before we relocate again.

Well ciao for now!
- Jennifer



Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Focused Energy

There is no telling where life's journey will take you. Today, I am living in Galesburg, IL working at a mobile home community. Just 6 months ago I was still in GA, wishing and asking the universe to get me out of there! Focused energy can make things happen. Period.

Concentrating on a destination. Looking at visuals and saying, out loud, that this is what you want; helped me. Sending that vibe or energy into the desire of your dreams; can make your dreams come true. But some say, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

Be specific when asking the universe for what you want or you will get exactly what you wish for and MORE! This happened to me. So now I am getting more specific, but also taking baby steps in the direction of my goals. So if I want to move to Colorado, maybe I will take a job in another state that is closer to the destination. I dont have to get there over night.

Since being sober, I have been the most clear headed ever since I was probably 15 years old. Even then I was an emotional teen, so that probably should not count! I process my thoughts at such a high rate that I have developed anxiety with bouts of depression. I am seeing my true self in such a way I never knew existed because I hid behind drugs and alcohol for so many years. I never allowed myself to feel what was real and true. Sure, some days, I miss getting off work and having some "happy hour" time where I indulge in some drinks and take my mind off work. But like every thing you do, eventually, you build up a routine that can turn into an addiction. What I learned about addiction is that you don't know you have an addiction (to anything) until you try to quit. 

The point of this blog post was to express my situation, my outlook, my perspective...it might not happen for everyone like it has happened for me. I dont label my journey with a religious name. I do not "pray" to a god, but rather my spirits around me and the universe or higher power. Whatever fits for you! I have read a lot of different paths and religions and I have taken from each a different lesson and/or a different message. And that is ALL THAT MATTERS!! Your journey is  yours alone and no one can tell you what to believe in. 

Cia!